BONDAGE FANTASY
INTRODUCING YOUR FANTASY
When presenting the idea of bedroom bondage to your partner, of course, a lot depends on the level of communication you've already established; the more open you've already been about sex, the easier it'll go. Remember, too, that you’ve had these bondage fantasies for a while, so when you bring up the idea, give your partner a little time to catch up; she might even be slightly shocked at first. She'll get over it. We recommend sharing the idea during that easy-going time after sex. Ask about her fantasies, and share yours; if bondage clicks for both of you, then it's game on. This might require being bolder than usual, taking the risk of being too kinky for present company. However, the "Fifty Shades" phenomenon showed that kinky is very popular...! For exploring further, log onto a bdsm products website together, and see what excites you both. NOTE: this may leave you ready for sexy bondage…right now…but please take a moment first, and read "BONDAGE REALITY". To learn even more about each other, log onto the same website separately, and create wishlists; then share them. You'll be happily surprised (maybe even a little shocked...) to discover your partner’s unexpected fantasies and wicked desires...!
For male dominants (remember, this is written from my viewpoint...), it's easy to imagine your wife or girlfriend tied up, right? Eager and enjoying being your submissive, like you've seen countless time before in photos and videos? Well, making that fantasy real takes some doing. There's lots to consider, and you've got responsibilities, like finding the right restraints, and learning to tie knots safely. There's decisons to be made:
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Wrists tied in front or behind?
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Crop or flogger?
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Lingerie?
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How long in that position?
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Safe word?
And that's the difference between fantasy and reality: the practical stuff. Obviously, some of these are fun decisions, however, keeping your bound partner safe is serious. See BONDAGE REALITY
Certainly, let the fantasy inspire the experience, and remember that your pleasure plan includes two people, beacuse the sex is so intensely hot and distracting, it's easy to get carried away into fantasyland, and push the limits too hard. Pornstars are sexual athletes, and you are not, so take it slow. Stay very sensitive to your bound, helpless, trusting submissive's pleasure and adapt the scene co-consciously together for the wildest thrills. Because everyone's situation is unique, allow for learning what's best for your mutual pleasures. Start slow - you'll find that limits expand over time.