The Handmaid is not a position; it's a role for your eager submissive, a first step into restraint play. With her wrists bound, she's giving up control, to experience the thrill and emotions of bondage surrender, And you, dom, will have similar exciting, thrilling feelings at being so in control, in the real enactment of fantasies maybe you've both had. Bondage sex is like nothing you've ever felt before, and so intense it's scary. My wife and longtime bdsm partner, Bianca, says that to this day, one of the most erotic, thrilling moments she's ever experienced was when I tied her wrists together with the thin leather belt from the skirt she was wearing...!
Wrist bondage is everyone's first bdsm sex, and just that small amount of restraint can jump your sex many levels of pleasure, Since your consensual partner will almost always have her wrists bound in bdsm sex, this is a great way to start build the trust you'll need to go deeper. Take it slow, and hotter bondage will follow. The simple act of wrist restraint opens the door to the enormous pleasure potential of sexy bondage play. There are many ways to tie your Handmaid's wrists, each with pros and cons; we're offering guidance to help make the crucial decision.
THE HANDMAID
Obviously, there are two main variations: arms tied in front, or arms tied behind. Either way, there are things to consider, especially if you have further naughty plans for the evening. If, for instance, your submissive's arms are tied behind her, sex lying on her back later could hurt; much better to have her wrists tied in front so you could hold her arms over her head. Be a good dom, and find positions which pleasure you both. Whether restraining her arms in front or behind, your eager submissive's wrists can be tied in various ways, each with different advantages. We offer some general guidelines here. As always, PLAY NICE.
ARMS TIED IN FRONT
Cross Wrist
allows some arm motion from side-to-side, down or overhead
easy for your restrained submissive to change positions
most natural and comfortable
Wrist In to Wrist In
arms held close together and forced outward, limited range of up/down motion
useful for standing, lying or bent over positions, and overhead restraint
good for leading someone around the playroom
ARMS TIED BEHIND
Cross Wrist
allows some arm motion from side-to-side, up-and-down
easy for your restrained submissive to change positions
most natural, comfortable and familiar
Wrist In to Wrist In
arms drawn tightly together and downward, limited movement in any direction
pulls back a woman's shoulders, accentuating her breasts
used in many classic, restrictive bondage poses (HOGTIE, STRAPPADO)
Once you know how you want to tie her, there's many ways to restrain your bondage Handmaid, maybe using what you already have, until you're ready for more. Belts make great restraints for bondage, and chances are you've both got plenty of them around; you could use the soft tie from a robe, or a bucking leather one. We recommend against using scarves, stockings or pantyhose as restraints, as these can become very difficult to untie later. Read more in our guide: RESTRAINTS
Maybe you'll want to buy something special for that first-time occasion, like red rope, or a set of cuffs. Although they're simple, easy and very inexpensive, we're not fans of metal handcuffs, as they can hurt more than pleasure; if you must, a least get the fur-covered ones. Using rope requires care; making knots too tight can cause problems, and we recommend using youtube to first learn about tying ropes for bondage. For the easiest, strongest, most comfortable way to restrain your lovely submissive's wrists, we recommend wrist cuffs - a beginner set costs less than dinner out, and makes for simple, safe, secure bondage. Now, her wrists can be clipped side-by-side, for lots of arm flexibility, or tied together, or restrained apart by rope or chains, whatever suits the scene. All with no tying, untying, or being concerned about too-tight knots. As a bonus, putting on and wearing wrist cuffs is classic submission bondage, and evokes intense feelings for both dom and sub. How, and with whatever you choose to tie her wrists, exciting new pleasures await you and your Handmaid.
